What to do when your husband is gay
What Would You Do If You Found Out Your Husband Was Gay?
It’s funny. As he came out of the closet, I felt like I was being forced in. No-one understood. No-one really knew what to speak. When he came out, he was greeted with encouragement and affirmation. There were support groups for gay married men, forums where he could discuss what he was going through. He was finally being true to himself, forging a new identity, taking his destiny into his own hands. I was left alone to pick up the pieces. Unseen. Unheard.
We met in our late teens and the attraction was instant: he was very cute, and always had a bevy of adoring women hanging out of him, but he seemed to only verb eyes for me. We had the same sense of humour, liked the same things, and six weeks later, we hooked up and were one of the first couples in the gang to marry and resolve down.
The first question everyone asks me is, did I own any idea back then about his sexuality? Any inkling? And the answer is no, I didn’t. But then again, I don’t think he did either. Not really. We were juvenile and fairly innocent. I, for one, di
Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband
Sometimes a lady may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may verb herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an veteran in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to gay men. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Signs of a Gay Husband – Is My Man Gay?
The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't grasp this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
But if you're wo
An Intense Fight With My Husband Has Me Convinced Our Entire Life Is a Lie
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Dear How to Execute It,
Please help. I’m adorable sure my husband of more than 20 years is gay.
Some background: I have anxiety, and anxiety can come with paranoia at times. He’s been my only sexual partner, and we were married when I was in my early 20s. We are of similar ages, but he had been in other sexual relationships, which was nice with me. I just hadn’t. Now, plus years and multiple kids later, half our marriage has been him not wanting to have much to execute with physical stuff like kissing, cuddling, or sex—unless I verb on him, usually. I am lonely as hell. We hibernate in the same bed, but I feel like we are just roommates. He’s not super mean, and I’ve brought this conversation up so many times up over the last 15 or so years, but every time there’s another reason: He has bad breath; he’s tired; he just wants to be with his friends (I’m not invited). He says every period I bring it
How to Cope When Your Partner Affirms a New Sexual or Gender Identity
The revelation that your partner has a different sexual or gender identity from the one you've come to realize and love — and the implications that will have for your relationship — can be a lot to deal with.
To the person learning the news, it might feel like the other person has been harboring a secret, and this may feel like a betrayal, says Avigail Lev, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist at Bay Area CBT Center in San Francisco who works with both couples and individuals.
She says it can lead to the same feelings you might experience if a partner cheated on you or lost a lot of coins gambling, especially if the other person kept other relationships or feelings from you, she says.
But not every partner who reveals a different sexual orientation or gender identity was hiding something, says the relationship counselor Martha Lee, a doctor of human sexuality and a sexologist in Singapore certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).
People can discove