How to find out if my friend is gay
by Fred Penzel, PhD
This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter.
OCD, as we know, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In instruct to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer require not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as well. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , initiate that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.
Although doubts about one’s own sexual identity might come across pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the thought that they mig
My Friend is Gay-What Should I do Now?
Coming-out confession can be a tough event for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. But it can equally be tough for you, especially when the other person is your friend or co-worker. And nothing can be more challenging than being the epicentre of the coming-out confession. As per a survey by Gallup, 1 in 6 Gen Z adults is LGBT. Hence by that logic, we all have a rainbow sheep hiding in our friend circle. For some of you, it may not be surprising as you already have gay friends who came out to you, and you were able to handle them pretty well. But for many of you, it can be a surprising and awkward moment as it can be tricky to handle such a situation in real life. I know of a noun who was so stressed out when a friend came out to her as gay that she broke in front of me. Another friend of mine often wondered, &#;I think my buddy is gay. What do I do now?&#; So what to act when your friend is gay? Let&#;s get into it.
I had one of my close friends, who I always suspected was gay. I was sure that he would co
Please Don&#;t Call Me Your &#;Gay Best Friend&#;
Despite some friends and family describing him using the ‘gay best friend’ label, Daf hasn’t confronted them about it because he felt their intentions were coming from a place of love. With anything in life, he thinks it’s essential to think about the intention of what someone is trying to do, or say.
Ay, excuse me darling, I can reveal myself!
“I’ve never really called them out on it… when people have said it to me, it’s often been us two chin-wagging, talking. They’re not going around the streets, ‘Oh my god, this is Dafydd, my gay best friend!’. I’d probably chime up… ‘Ay, excuse me darling, I can introduce myself!’”
Daf came out as gay when he was Reflecting on growing up in the Rhondda, he is touched by the progression he can see today, with its openness towards homosexuality compared to when he was young.
“The valley is now a bit different to being open to homosexuality in general. When I was young, I didn&rsquo
How Do I Help My Gay Friend?
by D’Ann Davis
“How do I help my gay friend?” This is a question we listen constantly in the Living Wish office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world. Twenty years ago several Christians asked this question, for few knew any same gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were ignorant to their friend’s struggles. Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as gay or deals with a measure of same gender attractions. Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of life where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this scrutinize is of utmost importance in light of the change of our culture and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly talk about their issues. So how does one help a gay-identified comrade or SGA friend?
The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question. “Does your friend know Jesus?” This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attem