Same sex wedding shower

Modernizing the Pre-Wedding Party Traditions to Make Them LGBTQ-Inclusive

The traditional “bridal shower” and “bachelor/bachelorette parties” are, by definition, very gender binary-driven. While there is certainly no right or wrong way to host these pre-wedding fetes, it’s important for friends and family who are in planning mode to ensure it reflects the VIPs.

The Theme

The Tradition: Gender-specific bridal shower teas and “night out” bach parties

Modern Update: Whether you have one, two or zero brides, you don’t have to choose one individual to celebrate. We love the idea of hosting a celebration for each partner or even combining the parties into one (if the couple is up for sharing their spotlight!), in which friends and family celebrate both soonlyweds at the same time.

And don’t be afraid to contemplate outside-the-box for a theme! A good start is to center on the interests’ of the actual couple. Is one of the grooms really into microbrews? Host a tasting party at a local brewery for the shower. Do the brides admire the outdoors? Plan a glamping trip complete wi

How To Plan a Same-Sex Wedding Shower

Wedding showers are a celebration of the festivities to arrive. It&#;s a time to be showered in gifts, love and appreciation. Planning one can be a tiresome effort when you don’t know where to start! Not to worry, we verb taken the time to generate a how-to guide on planning the perfect same-sex wedding shower!

What Is a Same-Sex WeddingShower?

Same-sex wedding showers in general are an event where people come and celebrate the couples upcoming nuptials. It’s an event that is typically organized by the wedding party and not the couple themselves (this isn’t always the case) where guests come and bestow gifts to the couple, share their joy and excitement for the wedding. It&#;s generally just a great time for family & friends to blend and mingle before the giant day. The wedding shower is usually where the invited guests are expected to bring wedding gifts for the couple to open. There will still be wedding gifts from people who attend the ceremony and reception but the wedding shower is where family and friends can watch the couple o

Now that more same-sex couples can legally tie the knot, questions are being raised about the "right" way to plan and celebrate the nuptials of two brides or two grooms. While we believe there's no right or wrong way, per sé, we want to offer our readers at least a small bit of guidance.

Over the weekend, our reader Dana Kacedon Lane asked us about the protocol for same-sex wedding showers, writing: "If it's a gay couple, do you still invite the ladies? Do you have separate showers? We ran into this problem with my best friend's wedding when she and her partner got engaged and we ended up not doing a shower. Now my brother and his partner are getting married and I just don't understand what to do. Any advice on what other couples contain done?"

We turned to LGBT wedding planning expert and HuffPost blogger Bernadette Coveney Smith to assist us navigate these murky waters. See what she had to say below:

Wedding showers and bachelor and bachelorette parties are heterosexual traditions but they’re also a really good time -- and another excuse for a party.

Same-sex couples who are

(Closed) invite lesbian partner to shower?

I guess I read something adj from your comment. It looked to me like you don&#;t want to invite your friend&#;s partner &#; I got that from you mentioning that you figure she&#;ll assume she&#;s invited although you don&#;t know why.

If you don&#;t want to request her &#; don&#;t invite her. Bridal showers are usually for close friends and relatives &#; people you feel comfortable inviting to an event where they&#;re expected to give you gifts.  You don&#;t have to summon anyone you don&#;t want to. There are tons of people I don&#;t anticipate inviting &#; for the specific reason that I&#;d rather have only those I&#;m very close to. Clearly she should be at the wedding as your friend&#;s partner, but bridal showers aren&#;t a +1 affair in my opinion.

If you did want to encourage her and I was reading into it wrong &#; adequately then ! I was mistaken. 🙂

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